Mari Craig, LCSW-C, CCDC, CPC

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Step Two: Defining Your Intention with the Intentional Life Power Program

In Living on August 9, 2010 at 1:55 pm

Making better choices is something all of us strive for, yet many of us have a great difficulty consistently making decisions that are beneficial for ourselves and those around us.

If you find yourself repeatedly sabotaging your goals and dreams through poor decisions then The Intentional Life Power Program (ILP) can help you identify core issues/problems that may be holding you back so you can establish clear intentions and move forward in your life.

In my previous post, Step One: Defining Your Problem with the Intentional Life Power Program, I described how to identify problems using the example of Barbara who defined her problem as lacking the courage to take the leap from being an overworked high school teacher to being a more fulfilled freelance tutor for high school English students.  Over the time I spent with her, Barbara became more comfortable with the making the radical life shift by regularly meditating on her goal.

Ultimately Barbara was able to make a deep mental and emotional shift as I coached her in refining the definition of her problem.  After several attempts, she was able to clearly define her problem as “an inability to find the courage to take the steps towards becoming a freelance tutor”.  Now that Barbara was able to articulate her problem she was in a better position to establish her intention.  As I continued to work with Barbara, she began to confront her fears of failure and the myriad excuses for not working towards what would make her life happier and more fulfilling.

While making decisions can be extremely difficult, as it certainly was in Barbara’s case, it must be pointed out that people can get in their own way by allowing their anxieties to prevent them from moving ahead.  At one point, Barbara confessed, “I have always had a hard time making decisions and I sell myself short every time when I flip-flop this way”.

As I coached Barbara through each of her anxieties and excuses she discovered that none of them were valid.  She began to look deeply into herself and take back the power she had over her life and the dreams she wanted.  Once she found the source of her personal power within herself she was ready to commit to change.

After serious introspection, Barbara drew in a deep breath and articulated her intention as “I intend to find the resolve within myself to be courageous and take the steps to tutor part-time.”  At last, she had worked through her anxieties and made the tough choice to move ahead with her life and to be a fulfilled woman.

Making the choice to define your intention can be the hardest and most critical step in the ILP Program.  Barbara was able align herself with her intention and once she had done that her dormant inner forces came to support her and she would never be the same.